Monday, January 20, 2020

The One With The First Snow of 2020

January 10-12, 2019

There was a lot of time this weekend spend in basketball gyms!  'Tis the season, I suppose.

This week was the annual Mulhall-Orlando basketball tournament.  We go to go see Emma cheer one night, and the next night we got to see her play ball.  Her teams did not come out victorious, but it is always a fun atmosphere at the Mulhall school and to see everyone all decked out in Black and Gold with Panther Pride.  They have a wonderful concession stand too; I can still smell all the unique smells.  Oh - and this was the first time this season Jake got to see Emma play!

We woke up on Saturday to a blanket of snow here in Stillwater.  Most of the surrounding areas didn't have as much as we did!  Finn's season opener basketball game was canceled, Lara called into work because we didn't want her driving on the slick roads, and we hoped it cleared up soon because Jake had a tournament in the city that started late in the afternoon.  Luckily for him, the sun came out and melted everything so we got to play.  Lara stayed back with Finn and helped out in that way.

Sunday Lara stayed home due to the early departure needed for Jake's tournament.  So she was in charge of laundry and Evie.  That second one didn't work out so well for her.  We got a text as we were driving in from Edmond from a neighbor asking if our dog was out?  In Lara's watch, Evie dug under the fence!!!  Lara was able to apprehend her pretty quickly, and when we returned home, she had been in her crate for an hour as punishment. Thankful for good neighbors!

We ended Sunday night with a family meeting and some TV time.  It was another busy weekend, but finishing it with the family all on one couch was definitely the cherry on top.  Since everyone is back in school and the spring semester is humming along with basketball on the downhill slide, spring sports around the corner, it was nice to have a moment of calm.

On to the next weekend!  18 to go!

Tuesday, January 7, 2020

The One That Started a New Decade

December 31, 2019 - January 5, 2020

Well, this one has to go back to Monday of this week to tell the whole story.  On Monday morning, December 30, 2019, about 8:25am Emma and Lara's Great-Grandmother, Beverly Pelnar, passed away.  While she had been battling heart failure and dementia for years, it was still a tough blow to the family.  We quickly planned a graveside service for Thursday, January 2nd at 2:00pm at the Sunset Gardens Memorial.  Family and friends joined us to say their final goodbyes.

We played "When We All Get to Heaven" by Casting Crowns and Chester Wiswell said a few words.  After the brief service, several family members gathered at Nana's house in Perkins for fellowship  We took a couple of pictures, too (not pictured, Bex Boyd).

Grandma's Biggest Fans
Add the Weavers to a picture and it gets crowded...

But before there was a funeral, there was a celebration as a new year and a new decade dawned.  The girls went in different directions, but the pictures tell a story of friends and laughter.

Lara and her "YEatles" - Annah, Lara, Erika, Kendall

Emma went to a party at the Hatfields

Emma and Sarah

She took Jake with her, too!

Party People!

Emma stayed in Stillwater with us off and on this week, and the girls finished out the week looking forward to their final semester in high school and getting ready for their new classes.  Hanging out with friends, card games with family, and general relaxing with TV and iPhones.  Saturday, they both worked at the Donut shop in Guthrie.  And Sunday was another family day.  So grateful they will go shopping together, take Jake and/or Finn with them occasionally, and generally brighten our days!

2020 is here.  And it is going to be a doozy!  So glad I have this project to keep me moving forward!  Here's to a GREAT semester!

Wednesday, January 1, 2020

New Year, New WORD 2020

As we embark on a new year, another trip around the sun, the time has come for me to find my ONE WORD.  One word to guide my course for the year.  One word to help me focus, to remind me who I am and WHOSE I am.  One word to ground me, center me, and keep me from spiraling out of control when life gets crazy.  And although I struggled with "finding" my one word for 2020 when God finally revealed it to me yesterday, I knew it was RIGHT and I was excited to start praying over it, researching it, and finding my focus verse to go along with it.

My word for 2019 was Listen.  I wanted to be slower to speak.  To really hear what people were saying to me instead of waiting for my turn to talk.  I did not perfect my craft, but I did make great strides.  I can now remind myself to listen when I need to, and I don't have to remind myself as often as I did 12 months ago.  I still want to work on this skill, but I also want to grow in another area this year.

My ONE WORD for 2020 is BREATHE.  In all senses of the word.  First, to breathe, slow down, and calm down when life gets crazy.  The past 4-5 months have been very intense with 4 kids in 7 schools and all their activities, my full-time job which is constantly in flux it seems, the responsibilities and pressure of being a Graduate Student, and trying to be an excellent wife to my amazing husband, sometimes I forget to breathe,  So much so, that I have been to the doctor and added a new medication to my regime to help combat the panic attacks and general anxiety. 

But also, to breathe in what's happening around me.  My 2 oldest kids are graduating high school and starting college this year.  All the while I will still have 2 more kids who need my attention as well as continuing my own studies.  Being present, in the moment, means so much to my children, and I need to breathe that in.  More "In Real Life" and less "Fear Of Missing Out."

Breathe in God's peace and presence.  I always feel the most at ease during worship at church on the weekends.  I feel God's comfort in that space while singing words of praise to Him.  I want to breathe in that peace, and then remember it, replicate it, and revel in it throughout the busy weeks.  I pray that being cognizant of this will help it become a reality.

And to actually, physically, breathe.  Fill my lungs, exchange oxygen for carbon dioxide.  Inhale, Exhale (Jane the Virgin, anyone?).  It is amazing the GOOD a deep breathe can do for you.  It calms, focuses, and centers you.  It just feels good.  Doing this more, and keeping the spirals at bay, will help me be productive and meet all the goals I need to this year.

Sing Praises to the Lord

I am a daughter of the One True King.  I am beautiful because I am fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14).  I am blessed because I believe the Lord will fulfill His promises to me (Luke 1:45), He restores my soul (Psalm 23:3).  And because He gives me breath, I will sing PRAISES to the Lord (Psalm 150:6).

I think it is important to see where I have come on this ONE WORD journey, so here is my list of words since I started this endeavor:

2019 - listen
2018 - welcome
2017 - closer  (I was anxious, and blog-averse, as we opened 2017, so it's a short FB post)
2016 - greater
2015 - brave
2014 - joyful
2013 - resolution

Welcome to 2020!  I new chapter, a new year, a new DECADE!  So much will be changing in my life over the next 12-24 months.  And while I cannot wait, I also know my anxiety will be high.  I am working hard this year to stay in front of it.  Medication, prayer, and just breathing.