Tuesday, January 3, 2023

2022: A Weaver Recap


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022 was A LONG YEAR! We had more ups and downs in a short 12 months than we have experienced in a WHILE! But in the end, it was a glorious year. So good, I guess, that I never got around to writing any of it down. In short, we started 2022 living in Stillwater, and ending it living north of Edmond in rural Logan County with a Guthrie address and Edmond Schools. And the countless changes that are involved! Emma started 2022 in her kitschy assisted living facility turned dorm, attending the second year of her program at Cowley College, and she ends it living in a cute house in Ark City with her boyfriend and a couple other roommates, and just 2 classes to complete her Non-Destructive Testing (NDT) program and she will graduate in May in her AAS. Lara started 2022 in the ADPalace (Alpha Delta Pi sorority house) as a sophomore at Oklahoma State University and ends it as a senior with one more semester in the Palace and at OSU as she graduates in May with her BSBA in Management with a major in Sport Management and a minor in Marketing. Jake started 2022 wearing a bronze and blue Stillwater Pioneer uniform for the freshman basketball team, and now sports the #33 JV and #42 Varsity navy and white jersey for the Edmond North High School Husky Basketball team, just having played in a varsity game at the prestigious Tournament of Champions at the Tulsa BOK Center. And Finn! he has grown up SO VERY MUCH! He started 2022 as a shy 4th grader at Westwood Elementary school in Stillwater, and now is an outgoing, funny, charismatic 5th grader at Heritage Elementary School in Edmond! So much change for 2022, and so many memorable moments. Here are the highlights by month:

January 2022:


January brought us the 3rd month of my new job; Pioneer basketball for Jake (LOTS of Pioneer basketball), Britt and I's 16th wedding anniversary, and our Mini Dashchunds Jasper and Ama co-existing comfortably.  Late in the month, Jake turned 15, and we ADOPTED OPAL! Adding a 3rd Mini Doxie - a 4th dog - to our menagerie.

 

February 2022:


February brought MORE Pioneer Freshman basketball, learning to be a four-dog family (Evie, Ama, Jasper, and Opal), and surviving the ice storm.  We even got a day off school and work for the bad weather!  Jake started Driver’s Ed and got his braces off, and Mom and Dad took a late anniversary trip to Bartlesville and Pawhuska (so jealous of Ree Drummond’s PANTRY).  I also started PT for my right hip and sciatica.


March 2022:



Finn enjoyed his school book fair and Indian Taco night this month.  Emma sent lots of pictures of her and her boyfriend Austin to us - they have been dating since October.  Lara celebrated the start of the OSU Wrestling Season and attended her sorority formal. We celebrated St. Patrick's day at Eskimo 

Joe's!  We enjoyed attending OSU baseball games, and Jake started his stint as the newest player for OK Flight Basketball - measuring in at 6’7”. Finn enjoyed running club at his school.  On our first official trip with the OK Flight team to Northwest Arkansas, Britt ended up in the ER with kidney stones.  While not the best, it could have been much worse.  One thing we didn't have to worry about was our puppies at home - we had THE BEST dog sitters!  On the last day in NWA, we spent our time exploring and just being a family.


April 2022



We started the month by playing for 2 different teams on the same weekend in different tournaments (Relentless and Flight). Finn got to experience a Westwood 4th grade tradition with State night.  He spent the semester researching the state of Tennessee, and a famous person from that state.  He chose Tennessee and Justin Timberlake. In the end, you dress up as your famous person and present what you learned.  It was a cool experience and a fun night!  Early in April, I had my first ER trip as a patient due to a fall which resulted in some left hip, back, and sciatic nerve pain - the OPPOSITE side I just did 6 weeks of PT on.  I was in bed for 4 days, and I am still trying to finalize my recovery 8 months later.  For Easter, I sent Easter Baskets to my college kids - because every kid deserves an Easter basket!  I also spent a lot of time in April with doctors, and chiropractors, exercising and resting. And Flight Basketball – LOTS of it!  Emma went as 

Lara’s date to the ADPi Senior party, and the next day we had Mom’s Day at OSU and attended an OSU baseball game.  Ended the month bouncing from

the ADPi Senior Tea to 

Basketball.


May 2022


The Edmond move talk had ramped up in our house!  School was about to end and we had to get moving if we were going to do this!  The month started with a Flight swim party at one of the player's homes, and that sealed the deal.  Emma and Lara celebrated their 20th birthday this month!  Finn wrapped up Spring running club at school. We traveled to the DFW metroplex for basketball with Flight. I continued my recovery from my leg injury. School ended (and so did carpool duties) for the boys and Mr. Weaver, and basketball ramped up.  During this time, we met with the ENHS coach – and Jake made the team! Jake announced his move in style on the last day of school at SJHS, 

and we were deep in the house hunt.  This month did come with a pretty significant lowlight for me, as my dear and cherished coworker and her husband moved to Illinois - just a few weeks after they had announced a pregnancy with their first child!  So sad.  Additionally, there was some sort of terrible accident in the building I work in and I was greeted with this sign: 

We ended the month with the 3rd  flight basketball tournament of the month!
June 2022


Jake started the month at Falls Creek Baptist Assembly with UHBC while I was researching schools for our move, and toured a perfect little house in the Edmond North district.  We loved it so much that we signed a lease but weren't able to move in for 6 more weeks. Finn learned how to ride his bike without training wheels - we promised a new set of wheels once that was accomplished. 

We started packing up our Stillwater house, and I had a 3-day work trip to Nashville - which I missed some basketball for.  We got Britt a very special father's day gift - a custom Edmond North Basketball front license plate for Frank (his Ford Flex).

LOTS of planning was taking place for the big move, including a 2-day garage sale!  By this time, Jake was coming to Edmond daily for practices and workouts, and he participated in Husky Basketball Team Camp and scrimmage season.  By the end of the month, we had enrolled Jake at Edmond North High School!




July 2022


July welcomed us to Edmond! Also brought us more Flight tournaments and Jake's first recognition in the High School basketball recruitment arena. 

With flight, we traveled to Hot Springs and Dallas this month.  We also got Finn all enrolled for Elementary School. AND WE  MOVED INTO OUR HOUSE!
Jake got his driving learner's permit this month as well (pro tip: don't move to a new place the same month your son gets his permit as you'll never drive anywhere and you won't learn your new surroundings!) As we left Stillwater, we re-homed Ama with some friends who were already Doxie lovers, and we found a foster family for Evie so that when Lara graduates she can take her on the road with her!  This month we enjoyed exploring Edmond! We found our favorite coffee (and other drinks) shop very close to our house, and a fun donut shop for Finn. We also explored our neighborhood with dog walks and played basketball at our cute neighborhood park. 


August 2022


August was insane!  Basketball practice for both Jake's Grassroots and his School team - constantly.  Early in the month, Jake got his class schedule and the school had a pick-up day where you could walk the school to find the classes.  Also got his ID and Chromebook that day, too.  During August, Jake went on his first ever solo date (it didn’t last).  He also participated in the Cameron University elite basketball camp in Lawton with some of his teammates.  We celebrated Britt’s  48th birthday at Sunnyside Diner.  Then, we sent Jake to Las Vegas with his Flight family for a tournament – which meant he missed the first 2 days of school in his new school.  While Jake was in Vegas, Finn had meet the teacher night at his school, and a few days later he started 5th grade at Heritage Elementary. 

After an AMAZING time in Vegas

Jake started school a couple of days late.  That week, Dad and I went to an orientation at Heritage to learn how to be Heritage parents.  Then it was Emma's first day at Cowley. 

Then sorority bid day

and Lara’s first day at OSU

I worked wayfinding for OSU Welcome Week that day and saw a lot of friends during my shift. We also squeezed in Edmond North High School Open House, Football games, family dinner, and basketball basketball basketball! Kinda fun having Jake to drive us around everywhere.





September 2022


In September, I was allowed by my boss to start a work from home schedule and chose Tuesdays and Fridays as my WFH days – unless there is a conflict. Football games, craft fairs, basketball tournaments, lather, rinse, repeat for the rest of the month.  Finn broke out of his routine once again and started on the 5th grade School Safety Patrol for his school.  He works 2 weeks every 6 weeks and helps get kids off their buses and into the school for breakfast and the morning routine.  We are so proud of him for trying new things.  He has several friends in our neighborhood who either ride his bus and/or are in his homeroom class.  He gets to switch classes in 5th grade to prepare for middle school. His school had a super fun fall fundraiser that ended with a glow run that he really enjoyed.  On September 16, Britt started his new job as a Noon Monitor at Heritage Elementary school.

This was definitely a God thing, and the path to get there was almost comical.  But, he loves it and Finn loves having him at school.  We celebrated Dad’s Day at OSU and had a ton of fun at the Alpha Delta Pi house 

and at the Cowboy football game.  We also explored Edmond some more and ate at some fun new restaurants.  Jake missed a week of school due to COVID, and around that same time started hanging out with a new girl.  This one lasted a little longer.  Long enough that we learned how to shop for semi-formal wear for a Giant.  Shout out to Laura at the OKC DXL store!




October 2022


October was more basketball, more family, more Edmond.  I joined our neighborhood book club!!! We celebrated Finn’s 11th birthday and he got a new, bigger bicycle – in orange!  Best way to cruise his new neighborhood and make new friends!  We had a visitor in our home for a couple of weeks as well.  Evie was with us while her foster family was on a long vacation.  It was fun to have her!  Another way we celebrated Finn’s birthday – and my 48th birthday – was to take a bunch of treats to the Mercy NICU staff and see Finn’s old nurse and doctor friends.  That was a GREAT trip!  We took pics, found the EXACT incubator he was in while he was on oxygen, and looked in the room he graduated from.  The staff also made a little graduation ceremony for us as well.  It was truly a very special moment and a great experience 

I celebrated my one-year anniversary at my “new” job, and later that week we went to an epic Trunk or Treat event at Finn’s school. Jake participated in a Prospect Camp for Prep Hoops this month too.  OSU Homecoming happened, and Finn had his first big vehicle crash where he layed his little scooter over and had road rash all up and down his poor body!  It was a huge mess!  Later in the month, Jake got all dressed up for a full night of high school dance traditions with the Huskies Fall Ball.  There were pictures at one girl’s house, followed by a large group that went out to dinner together, and then on to the dance - in a rented "limo" bus!.  There was an after party as well at one of the girl's houses, and Jake took a date - the girl he had been dating - to all of these events.  They had fun, but the relationship didn’t last.


Jake also went to a large haunted house in Guthrie with his whole basketball team – I am not sure the event space was ready for them! Britt and I attended his 40th high school reunion in Enid and had a great time.  We ended the month with Emma having surgery on Halloween, and Jake and Finn getting together with their new friends for trick-or-treating.


November 2022


Scrimmages, season staring – all basketball, all the time.  Finn’s school had a fun book fair, and one evening Nana and Grandpa came up for dinner and shopping.

We got to vote for the first time in Logan county – our polling place is an adorable church in Guthrie.  I also got a growth removed from my nose, so the stress of finding a doc and getting it done, and being comfortable with it all was a stretch for me!  Husky Basketball hosted a tournament at Solid Rock, and we volunteered to help all day.  That was a fun event to be a part of!  We hosted Thanksgiving at our house the Saturday after Turkey Day.  We made all the food and had everyone here. My folks, my 4 kids, and Emma’s boyfriend Austin.  It was a GREAT day!

We had decorated for Christmas the Thursday and Friday of Thanksgiving since we didn’t have any other plans, so that was done!  On the 29th, before the home-opening Husky basketball games, Jake was given a Varsity Jersey!  He plays both JV (#33) and Varsity (#42) this year.  And we’re loving it!  Late in the month, I was honored with the Distinguished Service Award for my contributions to Oklahoma State University students and staff.  This was humbling and very honoring.  I was a top 10 finalist and got a small monetary prize.  Makes all the work-related sleepless nights from the beginning of this year worth it!


December 2022


Finn kicked off December with Colonial Day at his school.

He even made us a wonderful candle during this event that he gifted to us as a Christmas present.  Of course, there was a TON of Husky basketball to be played.  Emma and Austin, and 2 other roommates, moved into their adorable rental home in Ark City, and we went up to deliver some home warming gifts and to see how they were doing.  Jake’s old Stillwater Pioneer team came to Edmond early in the month, and it was fun to see Jake on the court with his old friends for both the JV and Varsity games.  Lara and one of her sorority sisters were there for it as well.

 

Mid-month, we had a Friday off from basketball and went to Dale, OK to watch some of Jake's friends and teammates play against each other – stopped in Midwest City at Tacos for Life – LOVE!  Later in the month, my boss and his wife hosted a Holiday Gathering at their home for their 2 teams – and all kids were welcome!  It was crazy and fun and very cool to make new connections.  We all started our “winter break” at different times over the first 2/3 of the month.  And we ended the month in usual style – what day is it?  Do we have plans?  Are we eating?  LOL. The ENHS Husky basketball team attended Christmas Eve services at Life Church as a team – a very cool moment to see!  Christmas was a little messy.  We celebrated at our house on Christmas morning with all the kids and Emma's Austin. BUT!  At this point, my dad had been in the hospital since Monday the 19th.  He went into ER with severe abdominal pain, had an emergency surgery that day for a perforated colon, and then spent a VERY LONG TIME recovering  The surgery was healing fine, but he had cardiac and pulmonary complications slowing things down.  He was finally released to home - after a 2-week stay -  on January 1.  So the week after Christmas, while my dad was still in the hospital, we drove back and forth to Tulsa a few times as the ENHS Huskies basketball team participated in the 57th Tournament of Champions 

That was a fun experience! Jake saw some playing time in the BOK and I know that is a memory he will cherish.

 





On to 2023 – where I vow to do a better job keeping the blog up to date!

 

Monday, January 2, 2023

One Word 2023

2022 was ROUGH. Brought out the worst in me more times than I can count. Life-changing decisions were made in many areas of my life. All of which I am so thankful for in the ways I have been able to grow, lead, and adapt. But there were moments - DAYS - when the transition wasn’t pretty. The trap I found myself in often was the comparison trap. I am the first person to tell you that comparison is the thief of joy. But I forgot to tell myself. 

So for 2023, my One Word is “Celebrate!” I want to celebrate and not compare. I want to acknowledge and embrace my and my family’s own unique strengths and accomplishments without holding them up to see how they measure with others. My path is my own, and it is my responsibility as a mom to show my kids how to applaud the accomplishments we each make. God has granted us this beautiful life, and even on the messy days, we should praise his faithfulness and goodness. 

“They celebrate your abundant goodness and joyfully sing of your righteousness.” Psalm 145:7


Looking back at 2022, and my word of "satisfied," initially I felt that I fell short of being satisfied last year.  As a family, we made so many changes - home town, schools, jobs, and roles in the family.  My job, as a new role in a new department with a new boss and a team who had no higher education experience, was anything but static.  All of these changes, unknowns and new adventures left me feeling anything but satisfied.  But with the gift of time, hindsight, and fresh perspective, I see how I was able to embrace and manifest a sense of satisfaction in 2022.  Satisfied that despite all the rumors and chatter and attempts to make me feel bad about my family decisions, I am extremely satisfied with how the second half of 2022 panned out.  Despite the daily uncertainties in my job, I ended the year with a prestigious award recognizing my role and the ways I impacted our students and staff.  My children, all four of them, faced with change and adversity and nerve-racking challenges, are THRIVING!  Both girls are on the cusp of college graduation and jumping into the "real world."  The oldest son living his DREAM and wearing that 42 with pride - always coaching from the bench and being a leader.  And that baby boy?  He has blown us all away!  Maturity, joy, charisma - all of it!  He is a completely different kid than he was 12 months ago.  And ALL of it with the most amazing man right by my side!  Pulling me up when I am down, walking beside me in the dark, and cheering me on from the sidelines.  He is my best friend, and the past 17 years with him have been nothing short of amazing.  My marriage leaves me immensely satisfied - daily.

As I do every year, it is time to look back over my one word posts from years past to see how I came to use them as my focus for the year and to assess outcomes.  How well I was able to maintain that focus.  What God brought me to or brought me through because of my one word.  How my family changed and grew from my yearly focus.  Here is a list of the previous posts, if you are interested:

2022 - satisfied
2021 - hope
2020 - breath
2019 - listen
2018 - welcome
2017 - closer  (I was anxious, and blog-averse, as we opened 2017, so it's a short FB post)
2016 - greater
2015 - brave
2014 - joyful
2013 - resolution

Here is to 2023.  Celebrate! Comparison is the thief of joy - choose to rejoice in all that is good!

(Also - this did not get published on Jan 1 due to BRINGING MY DADDY HOME FROM THE HOSPITAL after a 2 week stay.  I was busy getting that taken care of!)