Showing posts with label Oklahoma State University. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Oklahoma State University. Show all posts

Friday, April 10, 2020

I got to be a guest blogger!

The month of March came in like a lion, alright!  And then she roared, and roared, and roared some more.  The end of the month looked NOTHING like the beginning of the month.  We made it to March 9 feeling pretty normal.  That week we experienced a slight shift.  The next week?  A seismic event.  And since then, we have been living with the falling debris and the aftermath of a worldwide pandemic.

In the midst of it all, my department which I am a student in started a blog.  The faculty leadership for Higher Education and Studnet affairs is working to make sure their students are doing alright.  This is a place for our community to come together, to share resources, and to navigate this storm together.  I was asked to contribute.  And it was just what I needed!  We're All in this Together.

I am adding a link to the original post on the HESA blog here, but I am also pasting the text in for my own posterity.  This post was originally written on Friday, March 27, 2020.  After a bit of editing, it was posted on Friday, April 3, 2020.  Thank you for letting me share.

We’re All in This Together

By Betsey D. Weaver*
I had my first online class, post-Spring Semester Shutdown 2020, last night.  I wasn’t ready. 
The past 3 weeks have been a whirlwind of activity.  The world will never be the same one we woke up to the week of March 9, 2020.
The flurry of change, innovation, emotional mayhem, copious amounts of (mis)information, and general commotion has left us all feeling a bit beaten down. 
I wasn’t ready.
I am a mom.  I am a wife, an employee, a grad student.  I hold leadership positions on volunteer boards. I am Gen X.  I am an introvert and an Enneagram 6.  I am married to a Baby Boomer, and together we are raising 3 Gen Z kids and a little dude in the yet-to-be-named “Alpha” generation.  We have elderly parents close by.  Our twin daughters were set to graduate from high school in a few weeks (and rise to be OSU Freshman in a few months), and they – along with the entire nation’s Class of 2020 – had their final semester of their senior high school year snatched out of their arms.  They had their last day of school without even knowing it.  No spring sports, no prom, no senior trips, no friends to make memories with and, potentially, no graduation.  One of my daughters had a Spring Break trip canceled mere hours before they were to board the bus.  My younger boys have enjoyed a week of Fortnite (ALL NIGHT), but they will be adjusting to their new distance learning lifestyle soon. 
None of us were ready.
But how could we be ready?
It all happened so FAST:
  • Monday, March 9 – Everyone is gearing up for Spring Break; Coronavirus is all over Europe, but America still feels largely untouched.
  • Tuesday, March 10 – The first round of Study Abroad Spring Break trips are canceled; OSU emails 1st Coronavirus contingency plan and restricts travel.
  • Wednesday, March 11 – Many more Study Abroad Spring Break trips are canceled; more travel restrictions issued; OSU restricts personal travel.
  • Thursday, March 12 – OSU declares they are moving to online classes for the 2 weeks after Spring Break; OSU creates COVID-19 info page and FAQ on their website. (My daughter is devastated by her domestic Spring Break trip being canceled.)
  • Friday, March 13 – OSU cancels all Summer Study Abroad courses.
  • Monday, March 16 – OSU reduces campus services, encourages social distancing, some offices begin telecommuting.
  • Tuesday, March 17 – OSU hosts a Faculty/Staff virtual Town Hall meeting to sharing information. (Stillwater Public Schools announce no school for the 2 weeks following Spring Break.)
  • Wednesday, March 18 – OSU announces ALL CLASSES will go online for the remainder of the semester; OSU implements temporary operation plan and urges all workers to telecommute if possible.
  • Thursday, March 19 – all OSU Stillwater campus events are moved online for the foreseeable future.
  • Friday, March 20 – New Human Resource plans released, along with stricter travel restrictions.  OSU Library and branches transition to virtual service.
  • Monday, March 23 – OSU hosts Student and Parent Virtual Town Hall meeting.  Bursar announces credits and refunds coming.  Student Union announces it will be closing to the public at 6 pm on Tuesday.  My office (essential student services office) can now close doors to the public; 1/3 of the staff still reporting to work in the office.
  • Tuesday, March 24 – Pass / No Pass grading option for students is announced.
  • Wednesday, March 25 – Academic deadlines are extended; ALL CAMPUS BUILDINGS CLOSE TO THE PUBLIC. (All Oklahoma Public Elementary and Secondary schools are closed for the rest of the academic year and all instruction will move to distance learning beginning April 6.) *This was my first day of telecommuting and staying Safer at Home.
And then, Thursday, March 26, happened.
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I wasn’t ready.
This was a ROUGH day for me.  And based on my social media feeds, it was rough for a lot of my friends as well.  I quit my job at one point (but only for about an hour).  I dropped both my classes (in my head, anyway).  I cried. A lot. 
I mourned the campus being closed, a campus I have been on for almost all of my life.  I grieved the Senior Year memories my precious twins had yanked away without them even realizing it.  I lamented working from home and missing my favorite coworkers.
I pined for the time I had lost during the chaos of the last 3 weeks and how I was so far behind in both my grad classes.  And, I felt so isolated.  Alone.
Forlorn.
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But, as I am accustomed to doing, I . . .
Got up.
Dressed up.
Showed up.
And I vowed to never give up on my Thursday night class. I am strong.
I have gotten through worse.  Heck, I was 12 seconds pregnant when the second of the Twin Towers fell in New York City on September 11, 2001.  I can do this!  Time to exercise my resiliency. 
But I wasn’t ready.
I wasn’t ready for the compassion shown by my professor, 10 years my junior but somehow wiser than I’ll ever be.  I wasn’t ready for the haggard looks of my cherished classmates on Zoom.  There are only 6 of us, and many of us have been together for several courses at this point–untidy hair, comfortable clothing, and sallow, sunken eyes.  I wasn’t ready for the adjustments and accommodations presented to help us all SUCCESSFULLY complete this course and meet the learning objectives.
I wasn’t ready for the sensitive subject matter to hit my heart and punch me in the gut.  I wasn’t ready for my friends’ broken voices and tear-streaked cheeks. 
But the biggest, most beautiful thing I wasn’t ready for? 
Grace. 
All the amazing grace shown by the 7 of us in that Zoom meeting room. 
We were all struggling.
We are all weary. 
We all have lives, family members, situations that seem lost and out of control.  We all feel the weight of finishing a semester that 3 weeks ago still felt normal.  And all this grace led me to a place of peace. 
I slept well last night.  Better than I have in weeks.  I know I am not alone.  We are all in this together. I know I have a community around me.  I know we will all get through this semester, and be stronger, more resilient because of it. 
And I have a lot of grace to share. 
If you need an ear, reach out; I’ll listen.  If you just want to hear a voice, I’ll talk.  Karaoke on YouTube? Hit me up.  Find your community.  Show them grace.  Let them fill your cup.  2020 has come in like a wrecking ball.  My 17 year old said it best:
Roll with the punches, hold on to the ones you love, laugh – A LOT.
And oh!  The stories we will have for our grandkids and other younger relatives! 
(P.S.  I can still do the dance from the Disney movie with the famous All in This Together song…)
*Betsey D. Weaver, Assistant Registrar, Oklahoma State University, a current M.S. student in Higher Education Administration.

Tuesday, February 25, 2020

They One Where They Were Admitted


February 21-23, 2020

Friday didn't go exactly as we had originally planned, and on Thursday the exact layout of the day changed a dozen times, but it turned out to be the BEST day!  Earlier in the semester, both girls had registered for Admitted Student Days at Oklahoma State.  Lara had canceled because she was traveling with he wrestling team to district contests, and Emma was about to cancel on Thursday because her basketball team had made it to regionals.  I think I called and/or emailed Admissions 5-6 times asking to change or update or cancel parts or all of each girls registration.  In the end, we did have to cancel one appointment Emma had made after she decided to skip out on basketball to come to the college day.  And Lara ended up not traveling for wrestling so that meat I got to spend ALL DAY with them!

We learned so much, saw so much, had a fun lunch at Fuzzy's, toured the Zeta Tau Alpha sorority house, and got a lot of swag along the way.  Here are some pictures of our adventures:









We always enjoy having Emma at the house, but I think Finn enjoys it most of all.  Here is a picture of him telling the girls good night on Thursday night.


Saturday, everyone recovered from Friday.  There was some homework, some naps, a little bit Netflix, and all the other usual activities.  Lara had a baseball game to work, and Finn had an early morning basketball game.  Lara, Emma, and Jake came to Finn's game together - that's so weird.  But so fun!  Lara had to leave at halftime, but we were all there to cheer Finn on for a while! 

Sunday morning we got up early and went to 8:30 services at Life.Church.  Everyone had something going on later in the day, so we went early to make sure we didn't miss it.  Lara was supposed to go to a baseball game with Erika, but they ended up not going.  Emma went on a lunch date with a friend.  Then the rest of the afternoon and evening was pretty relaxed.  TV, phones, and family time.  Emma stayed Sunday night, too!  She was with u for 4 nights - that hasn't happened in a LONG time!


Here's to another week of the 2020 Project!  I can't believe we are so close to being dome with this!  LOTS of things to pack into the next 12 weeks...

Wednesday, July 31, 2019

The One With The Fight Song on Repeat

July 26  - 28, 2019

Another simple, almost lazy summer weekend!  Britt and I were going through boxes that haven't been opened in years and trying to throw some stuff away!  We have TOO MUCH STUFF!  It led to the discovery of some fun high school and college treasures of mine, but I digress.  Back to the 2020 Project and what the girls were up to...

Lara was home most of the weekend.  She spent a lot of time amusing me by looking at things I found along the way.  I found a super cute picture of the girls when they were 1.5 years old:



And I found all my parking permit hang tags - I even asked her current principal, Uwe Gordon, if she could use them this year in lieu of me paying a bunch of money for one... He said NO!


Lara also spent a lot of time with her friends.  One who leaves for Harvard soon, and one who will be spending Senior Year with Lara this year.  They swam (took Jake and Finn, once, too), hung out, and even took their own tour of OSU in the rented electric "SPIN" scooters.  Lara was worried she would get lost, but she didn't!

But our favorite part of the weekend was a super fun piece of mail we received:


And the T-shirt we had purchased in anticipation of this occasion:


And the BEST NEWS EVER:

This card plays the OSU fight song.  We heard it ALL WEEKEND!

So exciting to welcome Lara to the Cowboy Family!  She still has to take the ACT to get that score higher and maintain her senior GPA, but she got an early acceptance!  WHOOO WHOOOOO!  Go Pokes! Class of 2024!

Boomerang

I know a little of Emma's weekend.  She was all over Northern Oklahoma, as usual.  She spent time in Perkins with my parents.  She went to a Rodeo.  And she went to Lake Carl Blackwell for boating and tubing with a high school friend of hers.  She is still figuring out what to do with college.  She is going to sign up for the October ACT and go from there.

We have a place to talk about senior pictures and ACT prep later this week with both girls.  It. Is. Getting. So. Real!!!!!!

Thursday, December 20, 2018

I am One Sixth of the way there....

Last week, I finished up my first semester of Graduate School.  6 hours of the 36 required are under my belt.  With Straight A's, I might add!  I am well on my way to a Masters of Science in Educational Leadership Students: Higher Education.  It was a rough semester, and the last few weeks of the term about did me in, but I MADE IT!  In addition to my full time job and 4 kids, I had 2 trips, a Homecoming Court participant, and a looming surgery effecting every move I made during the last 3 weeks of the semester where I had a project, 2 presentations, and 2 term papers to do!  Stress was my first, middle, and last name!  But here I am on the other side!  I rocked both presentations.  I made a 97 on one paper and a 100 on the other.  Final A's grades for both classes have been posted.  My surgery was last week, and while I am still recovering, it gets slightly better every day.

I had decided earlier in the semester, that as part of my blog I would post my favorite paper or project form the term.  I had 2 very different classes with very different professors this semester.  I liked them each for different reasons, and I hated them each (at times) for different reasons.  But I definitely have a favorite project.  The mid-term paper for my Foundations of Higher Education class turned out to be a labor of love.  And I want to share it here.

The project was called "O-State Stories" and the goal was to write a paper based on a topic covered the in the Oral History Project in the Archives of the OSU Library.  The Oral Histories would serve as part of the content for our project, and each student chose at least 3 oral histories to read and/or listen to in relation to the topic we had chosen.  Additionally, we used the OSU Centennial Series to relate the topic specifically to OSU history.  We used our class text book to relate these events we were studying to college campuses around the United States during the time period we focused on.  The purpose of the paper was to draw together the personal stories told in oral histories, the official OSU story from the Centennial History Series, and the textbook.  Here is my submission (which I received a 99% on):


Legacy of a College Pond:
A Gathering Place

Betsey D. Weaver
Oklahoma State University



Legacy of a College Pond:
A Gathering Place

     Oklahoma State University boasts a unique and storied history.  Formally founded as Oklahoma Agricultural and Mechanical College on Christmas Day, 1890, it is often touted as one of the most beautiful campuses in the nation.  From the picturesque Georgian architecture, to the extensive 25-year plan, and including today’s most modern facilities, OSU experienced significant achievements and impressive progress over the last century and a quarter.  One of the most iconic campus features started out as a pond to serve as a reservoir for horses after a severe three-year drought.  The pond, planned for and dug by horse plow in 1893, was originally called “Horse Pond” because of its proximity to The Horse Barn (Sanderson, McGlamery, & Peters, 1990); unfortunately, this barn succumbed to fire in 1922. The pond then became known as Theta Pond, as the Kappa Alpha Theta sorority house was located right across the street from the iconic body of water (Sanderson et al.,1990).  Historic Theta Pond served as a backdrop for college shenanigans, the site for unpleasant dunking of fraternity men after proposals, and a place of many students’ collegiate memories. If a pond could talk, this one might tell the story of OSU’s transformation from raw, undeveloped prairie land to a thriving, modern campus.

Student Life in the 1910’s
     Ruth Myers Lincoln participated in the O-State Stories Oral History Project on her 100th birthday – December 2, 2007.  Lincoln arrived on the campus of Oklahoma A&M College (OAMC) in Stillwater after graduating high school in 1916 (Lincoln, 2007). During the period of 1900-1920, college campuses touted elected beauty queens, voted for the most popular men and women on campus, and glorified the most outstanding athlete (Murphy, 1988).  Known as the “Golden Age” of the college, pride in individual schools rose as campuses adopted formal mascots, official institutional colors, and wrote spirit and loyalty inducing college hymns and alma mater songs (Thelin 2011). Student social life focused on fun – dancing, motion pictures, the automobile, and overconsumption of tobacco and alcohol.  This emphasis on decadence and the rise in the importance of social life on college campuses resulted in a student motto proclaiming “Never let College studies interfere with your college education” (Murphy, 1998).   This theme is reflected as students considered courses being a “necessary evil” to be paid as admission to the “greatest show on earth, campus life” (Thelin, 2011). Another phenomenon happening across the nation on college campuses involved the stabilization of Greek social organization as students flocked to extra-curricular activities that incorporated fellowship, character building, and well-roundedness.  On the OAMC campus, the first Greek social fraternity was founded in 1908 out of a boarding house; many Stillwater boarding houses would morph into Greek housing over the next several years. (Murphy, 1998). Lincoln involved herself with this new opportunity by becoming a founding member of the Nu Chapter of the Kappa Delta social sorority in 1917.  While majoring in Home Economics and earning her Life Teaching Certificate, Lincoln recalled being involved with many campus activities.  Her fondest memories of her social life inventoried the parties – including ones after football games, numerous dances, and the phonograph records students used to play music at these events.  OAMC was heavily populated with military training at the time, and Lincoln reminisced on how she “went to bed by the military playing ‘Taps’ and got up to ‘Reveille’” (Lincoln, 2007).  But one of her brightest memories involved Theta Pond, then known as “The Horse Pond.”  Lincoln recounted memories of “the boys” participating in a tug-of-war over the pond.  Different fraternity groups would man the rope on each end as it stretched over the expanse of the pond, and the “losers” always ended up being drug through the “mucky bottom” of the campus pond at the end of the battle (Sanderson et al, 1990).  The Horse Pond evokes vivid memories and stories of OAMC during the “Golden Age” of colleges.

Student Life after the Great Depression, late 1930’s – early 1940’s
     During this time, students had endured the toughest days of the Great Depression, and the OAMC campus mood was one of optimism and liveliness (Murphy, 1988).  Nationally, campuses had started to “split” along socioeconomic status into the “haves” and “have nots – usually along the lines of Greek-letter fraternities and sororities vs. the “Independents” (Thelin, 2011). Women’s enrollment in colleges nationally rose to 40%, and this is when Genevieve Holton came to Stillwater to attend OAMC in 1938.  She enjoyed many of the activities the campus had to offer in those days.  She was a member of a sorority, but did not limit her activities to the one area of student life.  Holton also participated in the girls’ glee club, played on her sorority’s girls’ basketball team, and was in the “Peppers Organization” – a girls’ sports cheerleading squad.  Her memories include sandwich shops off campus where she and her friends gathered in the afternoons and evenings to have a “Coke,” dance halls filled with large band stands where swing bands would play while students danced the night away, as well as recollections of her times with sorority sisters as they prepared for Homecoming events (Horton 2006). During these days of merriment, the campus grew to include new dormitories, as well as new sorority and fraternity housing.  As of 1941, OAMC was home to the largest college dormitory in the southwest, as well as 5 national sororities and 12 fraternities. This additional housing posed the campus to have “adequate” housing for the rapidly increasing enrollment the college experienced. All of this growth and housing boom steered campus officials to institute a curfew for students – 8pm on weeknights and midnight on weekends (Murphy, 1988). Horton’s brightest memories of campus life during this time focus on her time as a member of Alpha Delta Pi Sorority.  She remembers living in a small room of the house, which was then in its permanent location at 1309 College (now University) Avenue.  She lived with a roommate, where bunkbeds filled most of the space in the room.  Horton excitedly retold the story of a dance hall called “The Rock Castle” that prohibited sorority women.  She indicated she knew a few who “broke the rules” and attended anyway. Another amusing memory she recounted encompassed going to the movie house in town, then riding in a taxi cab back to the sorority house after a date.  The rate for the trip back was a dime, but the limit was the Kappa Alpha Theta sorority house.  To continue in the cab west of that landmark, the fare went up to fifteen cents because it was “out in the country” (Horton, 2006).  Homecoming represented a time for alums to come back to their alma mater, but during this time the focus shifted to undergraduate students.  The festivities included beauty pageants, festivals, and other opportunities for bonding within the university community (Thelin, 2011).  Horton recalls one Homecoming at OAMC which stood out for her:
“…our sorority had a float in the Homecoming parade … This float had a huge clear plastic frame on it, like a corsage box, and one of our beautiful Alpha Delta Pi girls sitting up there as an orchid corsage. It was very neat and we won” (Horton, 2006, p.4).
Horton also had her own special memories of Theta Pond.  However, hers were not as festive as tales recounted before her time on campus.  A drought had caused the water in Theta Pond to dry up, and there were not going to be any more class fights, tug-of-wars, or inopportune swims in the unpleasant pond (Horton, 2006).  Soon after she left campus in 1942, a renovation effort started on the beloved body of water to not only bring the water levels back, but to also make it beautiful.  The designs called for lining the pond with rocks and creating a spillway along the College Avenue side of the landmark.  Also included in the plans were an ornamental bridge and a manmade center island (Sanderson, et al., 1990).  These improvements to the cherished campus attraction brought life back to the pond and assured its future as a site for memories yet to be forged. 

Student Life Growth 1955-1965
During this decade, there was a prevalent theme on the Stillwater campus that “every girl” came to college thinking they would marry (Dunn, 2011).  This trend led to a boom of sorts in curriculum focusing on the family, and marriage in particular (Dunn, 2011; Waldrop, 2014).  On a national scale, a rush for students to go to college – ANY college – earned the time period the title of the “Era of Mass.”  The nation was experiencing economic prosperity, young people had educational aspirations, and the demographic boom all had colleges celebrating the evolution.  Growth is never without drawbacks, however.  Student life developed a theme of abundance.  Prestige combined with a proliferation of activities illustrated campus life during this time (Thelin 2011). Locally, Oklahoma State University invoked conduct rules that were both “traditional and restrictive.”  The campus infrastructure also battled as the overpopulation of cars on campus made transportation and parking more difficult.  40% of students had a car on campus, but there was very limited parking (Murphy, 1988). Jerry Ann Dunn came to the campus of OAMC in 1957, and she recalls many memories of her life as a student on the growing campus.  During her time as and elementary major with minors in business and English, she recounted walking everywhere and only being allowed to wear pants on Fridays.  She remembered study hours in the library where she had to check-in and check-out as dictated by her membership in the Kappa Alpha Theta sorority.  Another recollection was focused on the weekend curfew – she recalled it being 11:00 pm – when the lights would flicker in the house and that indicated you were to come home (Dunn, 2011).  In 1962, the women’s hours restrictions were “improved” as women were allowed to stay out until 10:30pm on weeknights, and 1:00am on Friday and Saturday nights (Murphy, 1988). Dunn also indicated missing curfew would put a co-ed in a “world of trouble;” the housemother expressed much dissatisfaction when Dunn missed the curfew once (Dunn, 2011).  Dunn’s most prominent memory of her days in Stillwater encompasses the institutional name change from Oklahoma A&M to Oklahoma State University.  After 67 years, OAMC officially became Oklahoma State University of Agriculture and Applied Science on July 1, 1957 (Murphy, 1988). Dunn described the event as a great time and “very exciting,” cherishing being a part of the important evolution. She reflected on how the change allowed the university the opportunity at a broader chance for future expansion (Dunn, 2011). About the same time Dunn left Stillwater, Ruthann Waldrop started her days at Oklahoma State University.  Waldrop was a member of Kappa Delta Sorority and was a triple major in home economics, preschool education, family relations and child development (Waldrop, 2014). Waldrop only lived in the sorority house for a short period of time.  Since she was from Stillwater, she preferred living at home as her mother’s rules and curfew were not as restrictive as the housemother’s or the campus as a whole.  She recanted receiving a weekend grounding for being 2 minutes past curfew after a date with her future husband when she lived in the sorority house (Waldrop, 2014). As a part of their academic curriculum, both Dunn and Waldrop mentioned their marriage class as a time of growth and claim its usefulness in their futures as wives and mothers – a reflection of the era on a national scale.  Student life was very social and lively during this decade; a party to celebrate any occasion was always on the calendar.  Students participated in events at the Student Union including Howdy Week Dances, Junior/Senior proms, and a Luau (Murphy, 1988; Waldrop, 2014) and watched movies at the Aggie Theater, Campus Corner Theater, and the Leachman Theater (Dunn, 2011). Another common theme during this decade involved the Homecoming celebrations at OSU.  Dunn and Waldrop remember staying up late, working on the floats for the parade, and making small decorations for the yards at the Greek houses.  Dunn reminisced about riding a tandem bicycle during the Homecoming parade as a member of the Mortar Board Greek Honor Society (Dunn, 2011). Waldrop retold a story of being lured to a fraternity house to “work on the float,” but the event was truly a party with little to no work getting done on the float for the Homecoming parade (Waldrop, 2014).  And just like the generations before them, these students also found ways to make memories at Theta Pond.  The theme of marriage reappears with the illustrious pond in the background, as this era saw countless young men thrown in to the mired pond once his friends found out he was engaged to be married (Dunn, 2011).  In 1963, another movement started to join in a “muck removal” of a muddied Theta Pond.  The Student Senate assembled 500 students for the job.  While they were not able to rid the pond of its copious amounts of mud, the day was counted successful as they constructed a retaining wall and a shelf around the main areas of the pond (Sanderson et al., 1990).  Theta Pond now held an important role as a significant and permanent symbol of campus life at Oklahoma State, and the efforts to keep it clean, appealing, and meaningful for years to come became an important task for every generation of students in Stillwater.

Conclusion
     This college pond serves as a legacy for generations of students on the Stillwater Campus.  As the Horse Pond at OAMC, the body of water originated as a reservoir of potable water for the horses who stabled in the nearby barn.  A gathering place for the work animals at the end of a hard day of work.  As time marched on, the pond acquired a new name based on its location near a prominent sorority house and Theta Pond became a gathering place for young college men to flex their muscles and fight battles for prominence and bragging rights (Murphy 1988).  Through the years, the pond underwent many changes, including opportunities to make it larger, and more useful for the campus and students alike, to projects focused on beautification and university pride.  Theta Pond is a common theme throughout the storied history of Oklahoma State University and the legacy left by the memories recounted here help make the narrative of events in Stillwater and on the college campus more vivid and relatable. Oklahoma State University and the recorded O-State Stories retold by alumni have a common thread of Stillwater, university traditions, and this iconic pond of water.  Students will continue to gather near Theta Pond to share a quiet moment, enjoy the beautiful landscaping and memorizing fountains, or witness a picturesque spring wedding.  Each visit to the pond weaves another thread into the tapestry of the vivid histories of OSU.


References
Dunn, J. A. (2011, October 28). An oral history interview with Jerry Ann Dunn/Interviewer: Mary Larson. O-State Stories Oral History Project, Oklahoma State University, Stillwater.
Holton, F.L., & Horton, G. (2006, October 5). An oral history interview with F.L. and Genevieve Holton/Interviewer: Steve Holton. O-State Stories Oral History Project, Oklahoma State University, Stillwater.
Lincoln, R. M. (2007, December 2). An oral history interview with Ruth Myers Lincoln/Interviewer: Tanya Finchum and Juliana Nykolaiszyn. O-State Stories Oral History Project, Oklahoma State University, Stillwater.
Murphy, P. M. (1988). A history of Oklahoma State University student life and services. Oklahoma State University.
Sanderson, J. L., McGlamery, R. D., & Peters, D. C. (1990). A history of the Oklahoma State University campus. Oklahoma State University.
Thelin, J. R. (2011). A history of American higher education. 2nd ed. Baltimore: Johns Hopkins University Press.
Waldrop, R. (2014, November 18). An oral history interview with Ruthann Waldrop/Interviewer: Juliana Nykolaiszyn. O-State Stories Oral History Project, Oklahoma State University, Stillwater.

Saturday, September 30, 2017

And so the adventure begins

2 weeks.  10 work days. I’ve been on an all-day trip to OSU Tulsa, 12 meetings (ranging from 30 minutes to 3 hours), conducted 3 employee interviews, assisted in 2 more employee interviews, hired a new employee (who quit before she ever got to the office on her first day), and completely planned, produced, and led a ½ day training.  Most of this was “new job” related, but many other tasks and projects were “old job” related. Also had an eye doctor appointment where they changed my contacts to mono-vision, and went to my youngest’s Kindergarten Alphabet Boot Camp Fashion Show – all this meant several hours away from the office. I am pretty sure on 2 different occasions when someone asked me how the new job was going I responded with some version of “They’re trying to kill me.”



But, I LOVE IT!  The challenges, the learning curve, the growing pains.  And there are many. While I have some set goals and expectations, the direction I choose and the tools I use to get there are all up to me.  I’ve already implemented a few new systems and have a few more up my sleeve!  My team has to adjust to new leadership, too.  I know they are experiencing their own sense of upheaval, but we will all work together to do our jobs and make it a great place to spend our days.

I am really enjoying being on the Leadership Team.  It has allowed me to flex my creative muscle and, an added benefit, to get to know my “bosses” better.  We have laughed together, come together to solve problems, and learned SO MUCH in the last 2 weeks.  Not only about the job and processes, but about each other and about what makes us each tick.  3+ hours in a car together will do that!  Add to that ALL THE MEETINGS!  Those first few moments while waiting for the last attendee to get there allow for some fun stories.

Last year, I didn’t even know what a “Registrar” was.  Now, I am one.  And this week I go to a 2 day conference with all the registrars across the state. Surreal.  Even if this initiation has been a baptism by fire, I feel really GOOD about the direction my career is taking.  My supervisors and superiors have been nothing but complimentary of the things I have already accomplished, and they are so supportive and encouraging when I present a new idea for our team.  I know this is a bit of a “honeymoon” phase and it is bound to change. I am really excited about this opportunity and about watching it change and grow.  I look forward to being more comfortable in my role and the feeling of really knowing the job. Right now, every knock at the door and ring of the phone is an opportunity to learn something new! 



Thank you all for all of your encouraging words and congratulations.  Truly a blessing.  God is so good.  All of the things I have been through over the last year led to this very moment, and for that I am so grateful.  My faith is still being tested, but I know God’s favor will shine on my husband very VERY soon.  Please keep praying for his job search.  And pray for my sanity as I continue to transition in to this new role with it’s different demands.


Wednesday, September 6, 2017

I Need to See You in My Office

Last Thursday (Thursday, August 31) was a fantastic day.  It was another day that the Lord made, and I was glad to be rejoicing in it.  The air was electric.  Working on the beautiful campus of Oklahoma State University, I get to feel the tangible charge and hear the unquestionable buzz in the air for the first home game of the OSU Cowboy Football season.  Add to that the excitement and anticipation of the season opener for the Stillwater High School Varsity Pioneers as they travel for their first game to Edmond, and the enthusiasm was real. Evident in everything.  It was contagious. It was exhilarating. It. Was. AWESOME!


Because of parking and other logistical concerns and issues that arise with a home football game in the middle of the work week, my boss had given me the choice of leaving a little early to avoid some of the inevitable chaos that would grow as the afternoon wore on and kick off at Boone Pickens Stadium loomed.  My plan was to leave at 2:30 in order to be able to get to the elementary school in time to pick my boys up at the end of their day; then to make it to the high school before the team buses left for Edmond with the football team, as well as 4 amazing young women who work hard as their trainers.  I had a special present as a surprise for Lara, Molly, Lauren and Lauren for their first official out-of-town trip for the 2017 Football season. I figured they work hard, and spend countless hours surrounded by stinky boys, so it might be nice to have something a little “girlie” for the first bus trip.  So, I commissioned a local baker to make them special, personalized Pioneer Football cookies for the ride.  Each girl got one with their name on it, plus a few others.  I said they didn’t have to share the baker’s dozen of cookies, but they’re sweet girls so I figured they would!






I am so glad I was able to be there to deliver the cookies personally.  All four girls were so happy, and Lara was beyond excited.  She didn’t know she would get to see us, and OF COURSE the surprise was thrilling!  One of the other trainers said, “I’ve never seen her smile like that!”  So, for me, that was a huge win. Mission Accomplished.  (After they got home from the game, I heard the report that the cookies were amazing, and they did end up sharing them with the boys near them.)


At the end of the night, OSU won their home opener by beating Tulsa with a score of 59-24.  The three Pioneer Activity busses finally pulled in to the high school at 11:45pm after a fun win over Edmond Memorial with the final there being 23-7.  Stillwater was impressive.  Little Gundy at QB throwing bombs and the defense was in beast mode – held Memorial to 3 yards rushing in the first half and 67 total for the game.  Britt and I enjoyed our time in the stands with Jake, Jake’s friend, and Finn while Lara did her thing on the sidelines.  A good time was had by all.






While all of this was fun, thrilling, and cause for much celebration – there was still icing on the cake for that day.  You see above I said my plan was to leave work at 2:30.  At 2:25pm, I took a call, summoning me down to my boss’s office for a meeting.  Initially, I was worried it was going to mess up my plans for the next hour of the day (my very well thought-out and choreographed PLANS!), but sometimes an interruption is all you need.
During that 15-minute meeting, my life and my trajectory were changed.  Prayers became promises.  Stresses were relieved and the weight of the world became immeasurably lighter.  
I had applied for a “promotion” of sorts on the night of Wednesday, July 19th.  There was an Assistant Registrar position that became vacant at the beginning of July in my office and I felt led to apply.  I believed it was a HUGE long shot to entertain the notion of being awarded such a prestigious post, but like my Dad always said – “The answer is always NO if you don’t ask.”  While I met all the qualifications, plus had experience here in the office, I was just dreaming and hoping for a better position to be able to contribute more professionally, and to be able to support my family better.  A couple of weeks later, I got the call for a first interview scheduled for Monday August 8th.  While I thought it went really well, you just never can tell.  Then, a few days later, I received a call for a second interview, planned for Monday, August 14.  That interview was INTENSE.  Lengthy, and with many key players from the office.  I left there spent, sweaty, and still feeling like it was a long shot.  But, hopeful that I would not be enduring that mood for long, as I was told they would have a decision by the end of the week.  However, on Friday the 18th, I got an email saying the decision committee was delayed in meeting due to schedule conflicts and it would be NEXT week.  The next Friday, August 25th, I got another email saying they had hoped to offer the position this week but there was an HR issue that had to be resolved first.  At this point, I had all but given up.  Some moments I was SURE I was going to receive an offer for the position, but most days I knew it was not meant to be.
That is until my boss called me down to his office on Thursday.  As I took the LONG walk from my work station back to his office, I didn’t think anything out of the ordinary was happening.  He knew I was leaving early, and I figured he wanted to make sure I had everything covered in my absence.  Then, he shut the door.  That is always a sign something big is about to happen!  And boy did it!  He offered this amazing opportunity – TO ME! A new job with different responsibilities, interesting assignments, and a chance to serve on the Leadership Team in the office!  Giddy, excited, delighted, amazed, and a little overwhelmed.  I have a lot to learn, and I can’t wait to get started!  So thankful for the chance, and honored that the committee chose me.  It has been a long and winding road to get to this point!  But, God!  He is faithful!  
I can’t help but think of the words Jesus spoke in Luke, chapter 16.  After telling the parable of the shrewd manager, Jesus said to his disciples in Luke 16:10, “Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much.”  My current position was important and crucial to the office, but I always knew I could do more!  When I started this job back in March, I set forth to do the job with excitement and precision and to the VERY best of my ability.  And, my managers and bosses saw that.  A short 5 months later and through a series of extraordinary events, I merited the REWARD.   But, God! He is so good.


I feel like a Phoenix rising from the ashes today.  I can’t stop smiling.  I can’t stop dreaming of a future that looks much brighter than it did a few days ago.  I can’t stop praising the Lord of ALL CREATION who was faithful to complete this good work in me.  This song is on perpetual repeat in my head…


By Your Spirit I will RISE, from the ASHES of defeat!  The Resurrected KING is resurrecting ME! (Elevation Worship – Resurrecting)

My official start date will be September 18th. Some transition will occur before this date, and I will be doing both jobs for awhile as I work to hire my own replacement. Always a few growing pains with things like this. Thank you every single one of you who has prayed, provided, or played any kind of role in keeping the Weavers on a positive track these last 12 months.  We still need a job for Britt, but some of the pressure is relieved and we can breathe a little better.  Please continue to send job opportunities his way, and pray for our family during this transition.


Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand. And we boast in the hope of the glory of God. Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance;  perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.” Romans 5:1-5 NIV

Friday, March 10, 2017

March Madness

Ah, March!  In like a lion, out like a lamb.  Right?  Well, not in Oklahoma!  Our weird weather has been even weirder over the last few weeks!  And illness is EVERYWHERE!  The flu (A and B), a crazy stomach bug, and intolerable allergies have plagued my little neck of the woods, and I am SO OVER IT!  But, there is good news to be shared!

I don’t know if you can tell by the picture, but that’s my Rustic Cuff, on my phone, at MY DESK in MY NEW OFFICE!  Ok, cubicle.  OK, not even a cubicle.  Just a desk – out in the open, facing windows that look out to nothing so they keep the mini-blinds shut.  But!  I AM EMPLOYED!  Back on the beautiful campus of Oklahoma State University, and back in the BEST Student Union in the nation – where LIFE happens!  Could not be happier.  Working in the Registrar’s office, where my main responsibilities will be with the planning and execution of Commencement Exercises (Spring Graduation is in NINE weeks; no pressure!), as well as tuition and residency appeals.  God is GOOD!

Since my last BLOG POST in January, I was also blessed with a little part time marketing gig that helped bridge the gap.  I was doing some design and digital media work for a local real estate agent and her team.  That was so fun, too!  Just a few hours a week, but let me flex my creative muscles, earn a little grocery money, and get out of the house for a few hours a day.  Thankful for dear friends who led me to that opportunity after my vulnerable post at the end of January.  Also since that time, I went through an intense interview process for another position which I was ultimately not awarded, but definitely learned a lot and knew more what I wanted out of a job.  All this to say, I have had a lot of positive over the last 6 weeks.  And I am so grateful and thankful.  But, we still need Britt to find his place in the world of the employed!!!!!

I’ll be honest again, we have had some dark moments over the past few months.  We’ve both been depressed.  Our relationship has had some pretty tough moments – even some in front of our kids that we can never take back.  But through it all, we have been held HIGH by our Lord and Savior!  There is still a purpose in this process; still things to fall in place.  Your prayers have been heard.  Some have been answered.

Can I ask again?  We covet those prayers!  We looked back over our records and since August, Britt has applied for 150 jobs.  That’s a lot.  One Hundred and Fifty.  Applications.  A dozen or so interviews; none of them panned out.  It hurts.  It’s hard.  HARD.  And some days the will to apply and the motivation to keep going are so far down deep, that finding them is the most difficult part of the day.  (Especially when I have had such (relative) good luck.  That’s tough on the old ego…) So, again, we ask for your prayerful petitions to help my husband, the father of my 4 children, to find meaningful employment to provide for this family.

I’d be more than happy to tell you about his background and qualifications.  About his education, skills, and experiences.  He’s so smart.  (He’s Jake’s Dad  – Jake didn’t get it from me!) He is loyal, trustworthy, honest, and hard working.  If you are anyone you know can lead us to a job opening that would fit for him, please let us know!


We’re on the downhill slide for this school year.  9 more weeks.  Then we have 2 sophomores, a 5th grader, and a Kindergartner.  How can that possibly be?  But summer is expensive with kids at home.  It is truly our goal to have full time employment for him BEFORE the kids get out of school.  Will you help us reach our goal?